Avoidance

Avoidance is a common behavior that we have all engaged in at some point or another. Whether the behavior is something as simple as avoiding doing the dishes, or maybe it’s something a little bigger, like avoiding an important conversation that is causing distress. What exactly is avoidance and why might we engage in this behavior? Avoidance can be when we keep away from particular situations, environments, individuals, or things because of either the anticipated negative consequence of such an encounter or anxious or painful feelings associated with them. 

Avoidance, at times, can be perceived as a means of coping, but this typically only provides relief in the short term. As an example, let’s say someone is struggling with social anxiety. For this individual avoiding social situations might reduce their anxiety in the moment therefore providing relief from their distress. Another example could be someone who has experienced a traumatic car accident. This individual may avoid driving altogether, believing that steering clear of the roads would keep them safe. While avoidance can provide temporary relief, it can ultimately hinder long-term recovery, preventing regaining confidence and independence. Are we using avoidance as a coping mechanism to protect ourselves, or are we inadvertently stunting our own growth and healing process?

Avoidance is a normal behavior we all engage in from time to time. It's important to examine the intention behind our avoidance. Avoiding tough emotions or situations can stop you from processing your feelings and addressing the root causes, ultimately maintaining psychological distress and interfering with personal growth. 

Therapy can help with recognizing and addressing avoidance patterns in a supportive and non-judgmental environment. Gradually confronting avoided situations or emotions, can help to develop healthier coping strategies and resilience to tolerate discomfort without resorting to avoidance. Ultimately, this can result in enhanced emotional well-being and improved functioning across multiple aspects of life.